“Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.”
I have been having a conversation with a number of brothers on the Believers Security and the No-Sin-Nature teaching. I had one of tell me tonight that they didn’t consider me brother in Christ due to what I believe.
I thought it would make a good article on how to deal with Christians who take this kind of action.
Here is what the dear brother told to me on Facebook chat.
I don’t take this lightly. I see that you highly value your righteousness and I see that a condition of your salvation is acts of righteousness.
You are not finding your salvation is Jesus. You are finding it in working for Him and there is no salvation there. I have no bitter feelings towards you. I just think you are deceived.
Here is the best way according to scriptures to deal with someone who has taken that position.
1. Be prayed up each day and be ready for an attack from Satan. You should always be ready for a surprise attack from the devil. This morning I praying that I would ready for all attacks of the devil. I prayed that if I had stroke, if my wife left me and cleaned out the bank accounts, if someone punch me out, or if my business failed I would have grace to have victory over these very things and that I would not lose my joy.
2. Don’t render “evil for evil, or railing for railing” (1Pet 3:9). Remember “a soft answer turneth away wrath” (Pr 15:1). Don’t strike back and tell them they are deceived, not saved, or have bad spirit. It’s okay to let them that God will judge them in the same way they judge others (Mat 7:2), and what the Bible has to say about condemning the just (Pro 17:15), but other than make sure you don’t accuse them back.
3. If you feel any wrong feelings toward them, or if you feel hurt with the charge they have made, end the conversation and go to prayer and ask God for grace to help in the time of need (Heb 4:16).
4. It is best to not have a protracted conversation with them but suggest they pray for you and let them know you love them and will praying for them.
5. If they don’t tell you way they think you are not converted and they don’t appear to be upset you could ask them for the reasons why and ask them what they think you should do to be saved.
6. Then examine yourself in prayer before the Lord to see if the charges are true. Examine yourselves if you are in the faith (2Cor 13:5). Take a good honest look according to the scriptures and pray and ask God to reveal to you if there be any wrong way in you.
7. Don’t allow this to discourage you. But realize you are taking part in the suffering of Christ.
8. Use this example to help you see the how harmful it is to tell precious children of God they are not saved. Example yourself and see if you have this kind of attitude working in you. Repent if you see any hint of this in your own experience and pray and ask God to help to learn for this example.
9. Don’t go around gossiping about this person. Spend your time talking about them before the Lord.
10. Make sure you have no get back, no bitterness, or nothing in your that wishes for their failure. Many time God can let false charges come your way to see whether you are building on wood, hay, and stubble, or gold, silver, and precious stones (1Cor 3:12).
11. Write a short letter listing the charges they have made and what they think you need to do. Note in the letter why think they they are wrong and go in meekness (2Tim 2:25) and read the letter to them. Don’t enter into a protracted discussion with them. If they will not hear you find an elder or minister whom they are under and without giving the elder/minister the details ask to set up a meeting where you can bring out the contents of the letter to the person and ask them retract their charges (Mat 18:15-17).
12. If they retract their charges forgive them and don’t gossip about what they have done. If they don’t retract the charges commit them into the hands of the ministry which they are under and allow them do deal with them as they see fit. You would need to limit your contact with them until they make their wrong charges right.